Laughter is the best medicine.

by - Wednesday, November 15, 2017

Hey ya'll

So we haven't really been blogging lately.. because... sleep. Sleep which was once gloriously a pretty regular and wonderful part of our lives... is now more like a passing friend who comes to stay the spare room.

Yes. I am so tired my analogies don't even make sense.

This week I was that sort of tired where basic human functions seem incredibly difficult. ie.. not dropping whatever is in my hand, walking through a door without hitting the side, remembering my baby has a different name to my preschooler. Those kinds of things.

And shouting.

I've been shouting.

I remember when my first girl was a baby I was really secretly smug about not being a mother who yells...

Ugh, those mums who yell. Why don't they just communicate in a calm loving way? Why don't they use a lovely sing song voice like me? Look at the lovely way I talk to my child.

Oh how the mighty have fallen!

I now have a house FULL of emotionally intelligent, tired females (and one very patient male)! And I don't know who throws the biggest tantrums, but I'm pretty sure my internal rage tops all of them put together!

How I looooong to go back to the lovely mum I used to be...
but she and her singsong voice can't come to the phone right now. BECAUSE SHE'S DEAD TIRED.

I have had so many moments of feeling guilty that I'm much less Mary Poppins and much more Abby from Dance Moms....

But guess what.

I've had an epiphany.

I'm human!

I'm a human mum, raising human children.

And humans lose their temper. (well most of them... well all the creative ones...well all the tired creative ones who are running late to dropping their children at school).

And today after I shouted about something to my daughter. I stopped and looked and her. And she looked at me. And we both started laughing.

And I asked her why she was laughing..and why she wasn't upset with my yelling... and she said..

"It's just silly when you yell, because I just know you love me so much"


She gets it. I make sure I am always quick to say sorry when my anxiety gets in the way of my communication. or even just regular plain old stress. Or tiredness.
In our house it is A OKAY to make mistakes. And that includes us as parents.

And the more I think of it (even though I still don't want to be someone who shouts often) the more I think being truthfully flawed in front of our children is life giving to them. And to us.

It gives them permission to be flawed themselves.
It gives them permission to get it wrong sometimes.
It shows them though our behaviour, our moods and our mindsets change.... our love for each other is constant.

And when we can take a moment to laugh about it. It shows we don't take ourselves too seriously.

And that laughter is the best medicine.

I love my children more than life itself. (Particularly because right now they are asleep). And if I can spend all of my days alongside them simply being authentic in who we are, the good, the bad and the ugly.. and through it all laughing our heads off at our own imperfections... then I have lived a very very good life. And I am grateful.

So let's all wash away the mistakes of the day by finding someone or something that will give you a blimmin good laugh.

And a wine. Happy long weekend!

Xx Michal

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